Relationships.

This post is dedicated to my good friend, Liew Ming Jie and addresses his problem. What I am about to write in this post, I am sure he knows and understands well enough without having me have to tell him. Thus, this post is dedicated to the others involved who may not understand what he is going through.

No guy, would ever go all out just to hurt a girl. There certainly are exceptions where conspiracies are involved, but in a one-to-one relationship? Never. When people make decisions, they have reasons. No one blindly just breaks up for no reason. If you think there's no reason, then you are just unreasonable. Yeah. Makes sense?

I remember once talking to Yi Xiu... Something about a relationship. What do you mean, "If we were still together we would know each other well enough." come on. Does this mean you were jumping into this relationship without knowing your partner? Hey, the both of you have only known each other for? 2 days before this entire thing started. How well do you know each other? How do you call it a RELATIONSHIP? Get him, book him, then get to know him? This should never be the case.

There are different levels in a relationship. The most basic- Friendship. Then Close Friends. Afterwhich partners. Spouses, etc comes along. The both of you have just finished being friends and close friends in 1 day, and turned partners in the 2nd? And how much do you even know him as a FRIEND before getting into this? Thank God MJ's a nice guy. What do you think would have happened if MJ was a gangster or some sort which you didn't know about?

How seriously do you take the relationship. If you had took it seriously you wouldn't have plunged straight into the entire thing. Imagine a boyfriend being with a girlfriend for 1 week and then asking for marriage. Diao? Look at it this way. The both of them don't even know each other that well. They probably aren't used to having each other in their lives yet. How can they get married?

Look at your case. The both of you aren't even used to having each other as friends. The next moment you guys are exchanging sweet nothings? How well do you know each other? How do you know if he's the right one? All this "getting to know IF he's the right one" should be coming at the "Friendship" Stage and not at the "Partner/Boy-Girlfriend" stage.

Well... There are TWO ways to look at this post. No, no Three ways.


1) Positively- Yeah he makes a point. I'll just learn from my mistake, no more committing the same mistake in future.

2) Neutrally- Err ok... *And all that you just read disappears.*

3) Negatively- Wah lau this Eugene only know how to suan me never suan his friend. Biased that's what I call it.



Let me clarify. The only reason why I can suan you is because you did something wrong. Just because I don't wish to suan my good frind doesn't mean I'm biased. I already had a long talk with him, and he admits to some mistakes. I do not wish to demoralise my good friend in public. But I just have to say no one is totally right, neither is anyone fully in the wrong. Both of you made mistakes, both of you should apologise to one another, make up and forget about this. Don't dwell on it.

The past isn't to be dwelled upon. Learn and move on. If you stick here you will NEVER move. If you keep on looking at your rear-view mirror you WILL bang into the car in front... Look behind, then continue looking in front.

Ultimately it's your choice. I can't sit here and make you listen to me, force you to see things my way. All I can offer is consolation and some advice, having been through similar situations before. I can only say that whatever that happened probably wasn't deliberate. Some private things which I do not wish to disclose here (in fear of invading your privacies) shall not be displayed. Please do contact me for further information if so required.

Thank you and good night.

Eugene.

PS: on a lighter note, hehe. xiu enjoyed her chalet. that's great! (: happy 8th month..


"I realised. The key to a relationship is always to look at the bigger picture, and not just confine it to yourself and what you want. The key to a successful relationship is being able to mix all the wants and needs on both sides until it fits into every single nook and cranny. The key to all this? Is knowing each other well enough. And I know Yi Xiu likes french toast (:"

Keep smiling, I'll be here for ya! (: